One of the most valuable things that a bride (and her groom and immediate family) has to anchor her through the entire wedding process is her sense of well being. A wedding planner’s main focus is to maintain that great sense of well being from the first meeting until the happy couple is off to HoneymoonLand!
She maintains your budget while maintaining your sanity.
An immediate way that a wedding planner can aid in supporting your financial well being is by utilizing their extensive knowledge of vendors, processes, locations, and people. Because the planner can go directly to sources (and have multiple options to choose from), she/he can get things moving faster, more efficiently, and avoid costly mistakes. In addition, your time is used more effectively, freeing you up to attend to life beyond wedding.
She artfully conducts the 10-ring circus with her great expertise.
Just as you would hire a general contractor to build your house, or hire a lawyer to defend yourself in court; by hiring a wedding expert, you get a day where you don’t have to worry about anything but being in the moment of one the most memorable days of your life. Today’s weddings are similar in scale and complexity as some movie productions. The caterer’s not able to find the right kind of electrical outlet? Squabbling family members? You need a good director so that you and your spouse not only walk down the aisle with each other, but with the Academy Award for Best Wedding!
She attends to things that you would never have thought of (she’s almost like magic).
From negotiating all vendor contracts to establishing the couple’s vision for the wedding, much of what a wedding planner does is in the details. Her ability to anticipate what is coming next, or to create many, little solutions over time; provide a buffer to the potential snowball effect of approaching deadlines and over-stressed people. Consider her your virtual fairy godmother!
She is the person you want on your team.
She may be perfectly warm, friendly and well-mannered, but when it comes down to getting what is needed for your wedding day, she is here to be your virtual border collie! Since everyone else is busy, she makes sure that everyone (and every thing) is in place, and that everyone has all the information that they need. If any barking is required, she will do it with persistence AND style!
She will be your partner in the moment.
Advice from Annemarie Juhlian on writing your wedding vows. When it comes time to write your wedding vows, this can be a very daunting task. I hope Annemarie’s advice will put you at ease and comfort knowing that there are no rules these days. Wedding couples are really taking the time to create and personalize their vows, have fun! Truly make it your day to celebrate each other!
Annemarie Juhlian, Wedding Celebrant & Officiant
In this work that I do, I get lots of questions and lots of “angst” from engaged couples about their wedding vows – whether the ceremony is traditional, contemporary or “out there.” I thought my perspective below on wedding vows might be helpful to the brides/grooms – the keyword “wedding vows” is also one of the most searched keywords within the “wedding world.”
Wedding Vows – a little personal perspective.
Personal wedding vows – written together by a couple together before a wedding ceremony or saved as a surprise for the wedding ceremony – are often the heart and soul of a wedding ceremony. Wedding vows are so much more than “I promise this until the end of time,” and “I will always do this and never do that.” Vows between a loving couple are more about their love, respect and appreciation for each other, what they promise to bring to their marriage, what they can expect from each other and perhaps something that they want to share about their Sweetheart publicly with their family and friends. In some ways, vows can be a mini-love letter.
Wedding vows are a very personal statement between two people. Vows are also a public statement of love, commitment and respect. It’s a gentle and delicate dance to craft a set of vows – similar or different – that truly celebrate a couple’s relationship and at the same time are publicly respectful and inclusive so family and friends feel they have a tiny peak into their loving relationship.
So my best advice, having witnessed hundreds of vows exchanged?
1) Go to lunch. Discuss your vows and get on the same page. Talk to your partner about what’s possible and what’s comfortable for your wedding day.
2) Take your time. Don’t wait until the 11th hour to write your vows. Start weeks if not a month or two before.
3) This is not about performance. This isn’t about doing it “right.” It’s about doing what’s right for you.
4) Create an outline/find your voice and craft your message. Go to the internet for inspiration. Read your vows aloud and time them.
5) Save the very intimate words. Surprise your new husband/wife with ‘private vows” on your wedding night or the next day.
6) And most of all, elegant humor is good, good and good!